My husband and I went through a roller coaster ride before we got married. Gambling, alcohol, hooking up with girls and using illegal drugs were part of his daily routine. But that was 20 years ago. Now we have 2 adorable children, we all pray together, go to church regularly, and are living peacefully with God. AMA!

Rose Morrison Faraon
Jul 4, 2017

We met in 1995. We were classmates then and became a couple for two months. But when I heard from a friend that he's seeing his ex-girlfriend during after-school basketball games, I broke up with him. I noticed after, that he would always absent himself from class to join his friends and I knew that he's into drugs when everytime that he would attend our class, he showed signs of drugs and alcohol intoxication. He did not perform well during the school year so his mother decided to transfer him to another school. On our last day in school, he talked to me and told me that he will come back. We did not see each other for two years, he continued with his vices and  we both have other relationships then. But in 1998, he transferred back to our school and after graduation,  we were reunited. But he still struggled with gambling, drugs and alcohol. It had been a long distance relationship. There are times that I would find notes from a girl in his things, would see girls flirting around with him, witness his gambling games, hang-out with his friends and their mistresses and other girlfriends, and his many other activities that I would only knew of from his mother, concerned friends and instinct. But in all of those years, I felt his love and genuine care for me and in 2008, we decided to get married though his ways have not really changed. We struggled emotionally, physically and financially as a family and it was during that time that we decided to go to church regularly. We found solace in the church, and decided to be baptized in 2013. It was then that he has truly left his vices, and became a responsible and loving father and husband. Ask me anything :)

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How long was your partner’s recovery period and how much time did it take to kick off his bad habits?

Jul 4, 11:40AM EDT0

Hello, John.

It took him I think five years to recover and finally kick off his bad habits. My husband's recovery period started in 2008 when he decided to quit those vices gradually, and I believe he finally kick it off it in 2013.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 7, 5:27AM EDT0

What kind of challenges did you both face during your road to recovery?

Jul 2, 10:33PM EDT0

Hi, John.

There has been many challenge that we both faced on our road to recovery. First and the truly crucial challenge was how can I trust him given all those heartaches that he has caused and for his part, how can he win my trust. Next was how he can separate himself from those vices. Another thing is how we can make the relationship last given his womanizing ways that was a big deal for me that time, the most obvious thing that he does (for me). These were the most crucial challengse for us that time, the rest comes only as secondary.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 9:02AM EDT0

How many years has it been that you have been married?

Jul 1, 3:39PM EDT0

Hello, Danny.

We have been married for nine years already, and we look forward to more years of being together!

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 9:01AM EDT0

Did your partner go back to his bad habits or have recurrence episodes with drugs or alcohol?

Jun 30, 11:44PM EDT0

Hi, SAMPSONNICHOLE.

Thankfully, he did not go back to his bad habits or have recurrent episodes with drugs or alcohol after he has accepted our new faith. And whenever we were invited to attend special occasions, he would just drink juice or water, lol! His friends find it weird but we have been used to it and are now enjoying those reactions from them as we are being reminded that it is possible to really be alcohol and drug free.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 9:01AM EDT0

What should a person do when their partner refuses to listen to reason and indulges in various vices?

Jun 30, 7:59AM EDT0

Hi, OBRIENBRANDON.

I think love and respect should not be held to those partners who refuse to listen to reason and indulges in various vices. They have their own reasons why they were caught on the situation and the best thing to do is to help them get out of it. Let them feel that we care for them in a way that you will still have respect for yourself also. Pray for them unceasingly, even if you think it has been too long unanswered but have faith that in God’s perfect time, it will be answered.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 9:00AM EDT0

What is the single most thing that kept your partner on the good path after giving up the bad habits?

Jun 30, 12:19AM EDT0

Hi, SFREEMAN.

I think his personal relationship with God kept him on the good path after giving up the bad habits and everything else followed. Our family is just a secondary factor but the most tangible one for him :)

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:59AM EDT0

Do you share your experiences from all those years ago with your friends and family?

Jun 29, 1:01PM EDT0

Hello, JOHNNY.

We share our experiences with his selected family members and friends only. My family and friends has known him to be a good person and I don’t want to ruin his reputation to them so it’s better to just have it between those people that was mentioned above.  But in case that they would ask about it, I think that my husband is ready to share our experience with them.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:58AM EDT0

Did you never have doubts about getting married to a person who has had all kinds of bad habits in his life?

Jun 29, 12:02PM EDT0

Hello, Heather.

At first, yes. I was thinking about the kind of life that I will have if I will marry him. But he has proven himself to be worthy of my trust, and he has done everything to I can say, win me back. He would make me feel bad whenever I will find out about his vices but he also knows the way out. And I believe everyone deserves a second chance, and during that time, I was thinking of helping him out at least as a friend. I did not realize that he would take me seriously and when he asked me to marry him, I knew then that we have a big chance to get him through all of the mess he has entered into.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:57AM EDT0

What kind of impression did you husband make on you with his bad habits prior to marriage?

Jun 29, 7:40AM EDT0

Hi, Terry.

It was like, why am I settling for this guy? He was trying to conceal those vices from me but I would accidentally or coincidentally know about it all. But he knows how to take care of his problems, especially with me J  He was a nice and a good looking guy way back then, but he’s into those vices. But as they say, you can’t have both worlds. Marriage comes at your least expected moment, and I believe we love each other that much so we can work it out better together if were married. I was very hopeful for him to recover then, and he did not disappoint me until now.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:57AM EDT0

Did you or your partner lose a large amount of money or were debt ridden due to his bad habits?

Jun 29, 6:04AM EDT0

Hello, MCDONALDJENNIFER.

He told me that he lose a large amount of money and was indebted due to his bad habits before we got married. Thankfully, he would only lose a little amount when we were already living together, though it really affected our budget that time J

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:56AM EDT0

What made your partner and current husband give up on his vices and straighten up?

Jun 29, 4:07AM EDT0

Hi, Trevor03.

My husband decided to give up on his vices and straighten up when we decided to be converted to the Seventh - Day Adventist faith. There was this what we call spiritual calling and he admitted to have been hearing it all those years but he has denied it during those years and has no plan yet of giving up on his vices. But when he decided to be baptized and he has confessed all his sins, it was like a swift and easy change.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:55AM EDT0

How long did it take both of you to totally get out the mess your partner made all those years ago?

Jun 28, 7:07PM EDT0

Hi, Christopher.

It took us more than 20 years I think to totally get out of the mess he has made. It started when we first met and he’s already a worst case for one during that time, though I have not known it beforehand and it lasted until early in our marriage. There are times that he would sneak out of the house or go out with friends for gambling when we already have our first child and he would even see other girls secretly. It ended when we decided to be converted to our new faith and until now, all is well for the both of us.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:55AM EDT0

Do you ever offer support and guidance to people who are addicted to drugs, alcohol and other vices?

Jun 28, 6:49PM EDT0

Hi, Edgar.

We have been active in our church in giving testimonies and messages about the vices that he has been addicted to, so as to give people an idea of what he went through and how it has affected his life and the people around him. We are planning to conduct some church activities on drug rehabilitation facilities soon because we believe that he can easily relate and reach out to the people there, to cope up and get through with the vice.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:54AM EDT0

Do you worry about your husband ever going back to his previous habits and indulging in substance abuse?

Jun 28, 3:02PM EDT0

Hi, EHENDERSON.

At first yes but now, I don’t worry anymore. I trust him more now as much as I trusted him before when he was still into substance addiction. My husband, along with God, has given me the peace of mind that I need in our relationship. I believe that he won’t go back to his vices now that he’s enjoying his life with God.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:54AM EDT0

What was the worst thing about your current husband then, which addiction irritated you the most?

Jun 28, 12:02PM EDT0

Hello, MELINDA65.

Addiction to girls was the most irritating addiction, lol! But seriously speaking, it was his substance addiction because it has affected his health and appearance. He had this problem on TMJ because of drug addiction and he almost lost all his teeth! Thanks to the orthodontist who took care of him, they were able to save those precious teeth of him J The worst thing for me was when he would go somewhere for days or weeks and would never tell us where he is, we couldn’t reach him and his mother and I was like, is he still alive. It’s very hard to wait for someone that you love without knowing where he went and not hearing anything from him.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:53AM EDT0

Did you life shattering event happen between you two which made your partner change himself?

Jun 28, 6:18AM EDT0

Hello, William.

I believe he has made his own decision to change himself. No matter how much we do for a person, if he doesn’t want to change at all, our efforts are futile. I wouldn’t take the credit but I know that it has been possible with the help of God. He responded to the call and that is when he became a new and better person. God bless.

Bets regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:52AM EDT0

Do you totally trust your partner today that he will never repeat those mistakes?

Jun 28, 5:34AM EDT0

Hi, CHERYL29.

Yes, with conviction lol! He has been a very good partner after quitting those vices, far from the one I’ve known before. He has been a good provider and father to our children. I believe he has learned from his mistakes and it happened for a reason, for him to become a better person. He has used his experience on those vices by being actively involved in the church, giving messages to young people on how to avoid being caught up on those vices and we believe that God won’t let it happen again.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:51AM EDT0

How was your life prior to your husband giving up all his bad habits and substance abuse?

Jun 28, 12:34AM EDT0

Hi, GILLESPIEMATTHEW.

I have enjoyed the things that I really want to do prior to his giving up all his bad habits and substance abuse; save on those times that I would know that he has gone out with girls, noticed that he’s intoxicated, knew that he’s broke because of gambling, knew that he has gone out with friends who won’t do him any good, those were the times that I really felt bad and sad and wanted to leave him. I was always thinking that he’s unfair and would curse him in my mind, lol! And when I think that he has crossed the borderline of my patience, I would ask him to just let me go because I felt like I’m not good enough for him and would ask him to never see me again . But he would always show up, ask for forgiveness, did some nice and sweet favors to make up. When I think that he has proven himself to be worthy of my forgiveness, we will start all over again. That’s how our life and relationship has gone through for the past years of his bad habits and substance abuse.  But now, we are living a simple but happy life, with the help of God.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:50AM EDT0

Do you have any advice or help for couples who are going through the same hell you went through 20 years ago?

Jun 27, 6:15PM EDT0

Hello, HANSONCHRISTIAN.

I would say that it takes love and patience to get through the situation, but the most important thing is that you should put God in the center of your relationship. Look for Him and abide with Him. If you want to save a relationship or someone you love from being lost, you must give and receive love and respect from each other. Pray, it really works.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 4, 8:49AM EDT0

Did he kick all those bad habits himself or did you send him for detox?

Jun 27, 5:46PM EDT0

Hi, WILLIAM30.

He kicked those bad habits himself, without me having to send him to detox. But I believe God has helped him overcome those vices because without God, he could have not fully recovered. He decided to kick it off after we were baptized to a new faith.

Best regards,

Rose

Jul 3, 10:16AM EDT0
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